All my husband wants for Christmas is for me to do one thing... in bed. DEAR JANE, it's so extreme - I'm not sure I can follow through
The holidays this year are incredibly stressful for me. I just got laid off from my job, and I've been wondering how I could possibly afford a Christmas present for my husband.
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By JANE GREEN
Published: 02:34 GMT, 24 December 2025 | Updated: 03:20 GMT, 24 December 2025
Dear Jane,
The holidays this year are incredibly stressful for me. I just got laid off from my job, and, as a result, I had no idea how I could possibly afford a Christmas present for my husband.
I was afraid he would be disappointed when I told him about my financial situation, but instead he offered a solution that, honestly, has me conflicted.
You see, he said that what he wanted for Christmas wasn't something money could buy.
The best thing I could give him, he insisted, was in the bedroom.
He admitted that he'd been harboring a secret fantasy that, frankly, is too explicit to write. It isn't your typical kinky request – it's something much more extreme.
I was slightly disturbed by the fact he had been hiding it from me, and I think he could sense my hesitation because he insisted that all his friends' wives do this act, too.
Perhaps I'm prudish, but I would never have considered doing this if he hadn't brought it up.
Still, I'm conflicted about agreeing. He says it's the only thing he wants as a gift because it would make him so happy – and I don't want to disappoint him.
Should I just try it for his sake, or tell him no and kill his holiday spirit?
Sincerely,
Bedroom Scrooge
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Dear Bedroom Scrooge,
I don't know what could be so much more extreme than typical kinky requests, but anything deemed 'non-vanilla' - or anything that falls outside the boundaries of 'normal' sex and falls into 'kink' territory - always requires mutual consent.
You say you're hesitating. Is this something you're even remotely curious about? Or is it something that you absolutely do not want to do?
It's hard to answer this question for you until you answer these questions for yourself.
All relationships involve compromise, and long-term married sex can indeed become deathly dull after a while.
Playfulness and experimentation can go a long way in keeping an intimate life alive, and there is nothing wrong with one partner suggesting a way of keeping things alive.