I don’t want a reference from my terrible boss. What do I tell hirers?
If a new employer wants to know why you didn’t include a referee from your former job in your application, I think you can go one of two ways.
I don’t want a reference from my terrible boss. What do I tell hirers?
Opinion
January 9, 2026 — 5.01am
January 9, 2026 — 5.01am
I recently left my job after my team leader went out of their way to sabotage my career by not including me in important meetings with clients, refusing to train me, claiming credit for my work and giving me a negative performance review before putting me on a performance management plan that had immeasurable goals.
As I do not trust my team leader to give me a good reference, how do I explain this to a potential employer? And how do I explain why I left without badmouthing my ex-employer?
While your heart might want to “badmouth”, try to let your head take control and coolly explain.Credit: John Shakespeare
Sorry to hear you had such a horrible experience in your last job. Leading people is a difficult thing to do, but what you’ve described sounds like the actions of someone who wasn’t even trying to be a decent manager.
People at work don’t have to be best friends to work well together, but they do need to show a little bit of mutual respect – or, at the very minimum, courtesy. That doesn’t seem like it was the case here. It makes sense to me that you wouldn’t trust your team leader to provide you with a fair reference.
I think there are a few ways you might approach this, but my overarching advice is don’t tangle yourself up in convoluted evasions. Rather than spending your time and effort second-guessing what a prospective hiring panel will want to hear, spend it on sound, straightforward and honest explanations about why your last job didn’t go the way you wanted.
Having said that, you may want to modify your approach depending on what questions you’re asked during an interview.
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When it comes to the pointy end of a recruitment process, some, although certainly not all, hiring managers will ask why you left your previous job. If this happens, my advice would be to answer truthfully but tactfully.
You can admit the previous workplace wasn’t for you without being explicitly critical of your ex-team leader. At the same time, you don’t need to mention that you were given poor performance reviews or that you were performance managed.