This is an edition of The Wonder Reader, a newsletter in which our editors recommend a set of stories to spark your curiosity and fill you with delight. Sign up here to get it every Saturday morning. At one point or another, we’ve all probably been that friend—the one who calls, texts, or sends a five-minute voice note with a long list of grievances. In the midst of complaining, a person might wonder: Am I venting too much? During a moment when much of modern friendship advice emphasizes trying not to overshare, venting—once treated as a basic expression of closeness—has come to be seen as risky, even impolite, Julie Beck writes. The fear of being “too much” or of “trauma-dumping” has led many people to hold back, Julie notes. Taken too far, this caution risks flattening friendship itself, she warns. Listening to your friends vent can be draining, yes—but it can also build intimacy. Friendship isn’t about setting perfect boundaries: It’s about making room, sometimes messily, for one another. Today’s newsletter is about the small, imperfect ways we show up for our loved ones—and why that mess is often the point. On Imperfect Relationships The Common Friendship Behavior That Has Become Strangely Fraught By Julie Beck A theme keeps popping up in relationship advice: Don’t vent so much. Read the article. The Secret to a Fight-Free Relationship By Rhaina Cohen Conventional wisdom says that venting is cathartic and that we should never go to bed angry. But couples who save disagreements for scheduled meetings show the benefits of a more patient approach to conflict. Read the article. Should Friends Offer Honesty or Unconditional Support? By Stephanie H. Murray A “culture of passivity” makes many people reluctant to question their friends’ decisions. Read the article. Still Curious? It’s your friends who break your heart: The older we get, the more we need our friends—and the harder it is to keep them, Jennifer Senior wrote in 2022. The decline of etiquette and the rise of “boundaries”: For centuries, strict social norms dictated what people could politely talk about, Michael Waters wrote in 2022. Now we have to figure it out for ourselves. Other Diversions How Sweetgreen became Millennial cringe An underappreciated variable in sports success Kids deserve better than goody bags. PS Courtesy of Bob P My colleague Isabel Fattal recently asked readers to share a photo of something that sparks their sense of awe in the world. “On my morning walk the full moon was sitting over the hogback, keeping an eye on everything,” Bob P., 77, from Littleton, Colorado, writes. We’ll continue to feature your responses in the coming weeks. — Rafaela